Which leaves the security associated with the union at stake
But the issue is that Jen doesn’t want the Scott that will be. She wishes the Scott she believes the guy might be.
The Core Myth of Codependence
Those that have codependent tendencies place a great deal of energy into trying to make their companion change into the person they need and require them to feel. In this, they frequently being more and more aggravated, anxious, and resentful. (as his or her spouse, paradoxically, continues to travel alongside, thinking that everything is ok apart from their own partner is inexplicably crazy on a regular basis.)